Note To Self

Empty your mind, be formless, shapeless — like water.

Butterflies
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The pursuit of happiness is a common denominator that defines us as human beings. However, it is quite usual to encounter an enemy that stands in the way of true happiness:

Our own selves.

Taking into account our modern way of life, achieving true happiness may seem to imply doing more, having more, or getting more. …


If there is a tree to plant, let’s plant it

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The will is what moves the stones out of our way. Had we enough will, we would almost always have enough means.

They say I am a hero, I am weak, shy, almost insignificant, if being as I am I did what I did, imagine what all of you can do together — Mahatma Gandhi

In other words, there is nothing, however difficult, we are not able to achieve if we put our minds to it. Perseverance is what gives things their value.

To believe is the second power, and to actually want it; the first. The proverbial mountains in…


Yes, it’s worth it to wait.

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In a world where everything must be immediate and there is no time to waste, chances of finding a person capable of waiting more than 5 minutes before making a decision, rational or not, are the same as those of finding a partner that lasts more than a month, a politician committed to their voters or a permanent job: very few.

We live fast, we want to have everything “now”, and certainly, we don’t want to wait. We devour life, giving us hardly any time to enjoy every bite. …


Don’t expect a quantum leap

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Like me, many people start out with good intentions and a strong desire to develop healthy habits only to slip back into their old, bad-habit ways. Studies have identified several factors that contribute to forming and keeping a lifestyle with healthy habits.

One of those factors is relatively straightforward: just knowing the basics about how habits are formed and how they work can significantly increase your chances of forming and keeping healthy habits (and maybe even get rid of a few bad habits).

So, educating yourself by reading something like this gives you a leg up on establishing healthy habits…


Research says you’d rather experience an electric shock than face yourself.

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My mind finally cracked at the end of last year. The pandemic Christmas season got the best out of me.

Some of the thoughts that were going through my head during this time were very dark and feelings I had experienced for a number of years had now become tenfold.

I could wake up anxious for no apparent reason every night with my heart beating 200 miles an hour. During this period of time, I decided to pay close attention to every single feeling I was experiencing and write about it.

I became a prisoner of my own mind for…


And I’ve gotta say, it feels DAMN GOOD

“Be like a tree and let the dead leaves drop.” ―

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Last year, I turned 29 a couple of days before lockdown had begun, and because I’ve been home ever since, I feel like I flew straight from 28 to 30. During these months, I took time to reflect on the last three decades of my life.

And…there was a lot to look back on!

Now, on my 30th birthday, I’m sharing 30 helpful things I’ve learned which I try to practice almost every day.

  1. Keep fear of criticism from crushing you: When you focus on what you’re trying to…


Recall all the times you felt amazing

Life is a lively process of becoming.

— Douglas Macarthur

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If you find yourself spending too much time looking into the rearview mirror of life, well, know that you’re not alone. We’ve all been there. Trust me.

There are often roadblocks, plateaus, and valleys along the way where you can get into a slump. Or a rut. And you can feel like you’ve simply lost your motivation somewhere along the way. …


The best is yet to come.

“Life is a lively process of becoming.” — Douglas MacArthur

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If you find yourself spending too much time looking into the rear-view mirror of life, know you’re not alone. We’ve all been there. We’ve all been stuck.

Life turns up plenty of roadblocks, plateaus and valleys where you can get into a slump. Or a rut. And feel like you’ve lost your motivation. …


It takes a lot of effort to do things effortlessly

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“Love never claims, it ever gives.”– Mahatma Gandhi

Truth is, healthy relationships are not always simple or easy to maintain. They must be cared for and nourished every single day. Regardless of what many blogs may tell you, there is no “magic formula” or recipe we can apply to ensure success in our relationships. Great accomplishments, like everything, require time and effort.

“All good things require effort. That which is worth having will cost part of your physical being, your intellectual power and your soul power. Let us ever keep in mind that life is largely what we make it.”—…


Hard times build determination and inner strength.

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One of the foremost teachings in Buddhism is that everything in life is impermanent.

When looking at the most important pillar of Buddhism, a philosophy from which psychology has drawn in recent times, we find the concept of detachment, which becomes one of the main ways to achieve spiritual tranquility, well-being, and happiness.

So, what can detachment teach us?

Attachment as an Expression of Insecurity

The law of detachment indicates that we must renounce our attachment to things, which does not mean that we renounce our goals:

“We do not renounce the intention but rather the interest in the result.””

At first glance, it may seem…

Romina Aswani

A little consideration, a little thought for others, makes all the difference — Winnie The Pooh

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